> > On my trip to Italy, in the summer of '98, I met a girl. She is one year my junior, and was part of our tour group, so we were able to be in each other's company for a good 10 days. Although we didn't get to know each other THAT well, we talked occasionally, greeted each other personally every morning, and even rode next to each other on the bus. At the end of the trip we promised to write to each other. Now, September '99, two letters from me later, still no reply from her. I have her phone number, but I didn't ask it from her personally. Our tour director handed out a paper, where everyone in the group wrote down their addresses and phone numbers, and she photocopied it and gave one to everybody. Question is, do I call? Is she trying to say something by not writing back? She must know I've been thinking about her to take the time to write two lengthy letters to her, so I can't use the old, "I was looking through pictures, or I found your phone number and spur of the moment decided to call" excuse. What's a guy to do?
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> > By-"sigh"-ron
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> well, you've already heard my opinion on this one, but here it goes again, i think i've actually chaged it a tad, and i'll expand too.
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> as a teenage girl approximately one year your junior in age, if not in grade, i would say the not writing back isn't necessarily a message saying "I hate you Byron, go away"... I personally am a horrible letter writer, so they might still be sitting on her desk waiting for her to find time to reply. Also, something I've learned from many times of going palces and meeting people and getting addresses.... when you get home, someone you hardly know seems a lot less important than someone you're good friends with (although I know YOUR reasons for wanting to stay in touch). So... well, I would say if it was a couple, maybe up to 6 months later and she hadn't written back, defintiely call. But, a year is a bit long.... I guess I'd say if you want to, go for it, but it'll probably be weird, it probably won't change whether or not she writes, and it'll probably be a short conversaton, because she'll find a way to get off the phone, because only a weirdo would call a year later when you've never even written to him.... on the other hand, if you DO hit it off on the fun, that's wonderful, keep writing.... but chances are you won't.
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> uni"hm, if Byron gets a lot of good advice, maybe I'll ask for some too... the trials of being a teenager"peg

Exactly my point! I'm getting threats of bodily harm from my friends for not calling her. Perhaps it's just their morbid curiousity in seeing me crash and burn. I'd hate to ruin the perfect memory I have of "her" by calling and being rejected. Hmmm. Anyone older than me wish to impart advice?