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Re: Why I asked the way I did
Posted By: Sam, on host 206.152.189.219
Date: Friday, January 26, 2001, at 05:54:46
In Reply To: Why I asked the way I did posted by Lyn on Friday, January 26, 2001, at 05:07:02:

> Basically, by not giving specifics about this guy and our relationship, I hoped to avoid reactions like:

That's a good point. On the other hand, I think it made me realize why I read the poem last night and still can't think of what to say to you about it. I did as you asked and tried to imagine how I would feel after receiving a poem like that. I couldn't, and the reason is that it lacks context. Without BEING the guy in question, knowing you, and having had whatever experiences with you that this guy has had, there's no frame of reference for me to gauge how I would react.

If you give this poem to this guy, my guess is that he's going to know right off what it means, and he'll react to that. But your poem, rather than answering questions about your specific situation, only poses more questions. So unfortunately I'm not sure I can give you the answer you're seeking.

I would at least say that if you and this person have never had any outspoken element of "beyond friendness" in your relationship before, this poem may be a bad way to bring it up. He may not understand what you mean by all the strong negative emotions ("as I once hated you" and "wish for torment to visit you" (!)). But if what you're talking about would be immediately familiar to him, that's possibly different.

At any rate, as a work of poetry, it's quite a vivid, sincere picture of some complex emotions. Good job.