>Ideally, but not necessarily, they shouldn't even
all be conscious efforts but the natural
consequence of one's feelings.

I think this is where the difference is. I'm not
going to pretend I have enough experience to
make any sort of well informed opinion, but at the
moment, these are my feelings on the issue.
Saying "I love you", and "You look great", or
buying gifts are things you need to give a
concious effort to do. If I loved someone, I'd be
most likely to show it physically, which to me is
more of a natural thing than the others listed. I'd
rather do all the natural things all the time, and
save the concious ones for special occasions.

Wes - "Really has very little experience in this
sorta thing."