I concur with most if not everything said so far. The knowledge that a potential marriage is right doesn't come from a mythic blast of heaven, and I would go further to say that if it *does* seem to come like that, I would be distrustful of it. I don't believe there is a "the one," preordained from the beginning of time, and you either pick up on the opportunity or blow it and screw up the rest of your life irredeemably forever. What I do believe is that, being fully mindful about what Issachar said about people's basic natures being difficult to change and never wise to trust in changing, if you choose to marry someone who chooses to marry you, and you both look upon marriage as a lifetime, irreversible commitment, then it can work and be a wonderful, satisfying experience. Marriage is 90% work and 10% romance, so someone (here?) said. I don't know about the percentages, but the idea is sound. But what other work bears as much fruit? A working marriage, a team in which each places the other's needs on an equal if not higher basis than one's own, is a fulfilling experience that brings about a type of peace and contentment that generally can't be found elsewhere. No, not every individual moment is perfect, nor should you expect it to be. You'll have arguments and be flustered with each other. But although that part of it isn't pleasant, the greater, more long-term effect is a great satisfaction in the knowledge that someone else can see the ugliest parts of you and still love you.