> Anyway, I am mainly posting this because I feel horrendously guilty about the fact that I have been thinking about how cool it would be to get to know her better and end up in a relationship with her. I mean, the reasons are all good-- I met her through church (something I have been hoping for for quite a while) and she is close to my age, attractive, and very pleasant-- But I feel awful because I feel as though I am, in some way, abusing the opportunity I was given. I mean, who serves as a caregiver at a church to pick people up?

Aaaaargh! [beats Monkeyman's head in with a hardcover self-help book]

I'm sorry, Monkeyman, you are absolutely right. You ought to only consider going out with a girl you have never seen, never heard about, never spoken to, and never in fact had any contact with in any way whatsoever. The only way you will find true love is by picking a surname at random from the phone book, calling them up, and proposing then and there.

I really don't recommend crazy alternatives such as meeting a girl in a friendly social situation, such as at church, and gradually getting to know her. However, if you want to abuse the socialising opportunities God has given you by actually going out there and socialising, none of us can answer for the consequences.

Brunnen-"starting to imagine God thwapping himself on the forehead and saying 'Dear Me, what more does this guy WANT?' ;-)"G