> > > I have been severely, utterly shunned. A girl who I was good friends with for the past 5 years - until this year, when she went to another school, but we're still friends - is having a post-Halloween party tonight. Everyone's invited - all kinds of people at school (even people who claim they hardly knew her), a lot of our junior high group even though she hardly sees them - it's giong to be an awesome group of people.
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> > > Except I wasn't invited. She called everyone else over the past week, but she never called me. It's as much of a dis whether she didn't call me on purpose or just forgot about me. People are saying I should go anyway, but I'm not going to do that... There's really nothing I CAN do. My feelings are just hurt.
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> > > Ki"thanks for letting me pout"ki
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> > Dear Kiki, I'm hoping you're not directly Mennonite ;) To take a Howardian Practical Approach™ to this... Why don't you just call your friend and ask why you weren't invited?
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> > Wolf "And then you'll know for sure if you've been Actively Shunned™, and the RW paramedic team will be coming your way Stat with the appropriate first-aid measures...*sniffle*" spirit
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> I, um, I don't know. It's, erm, the principle of the thing? I guess really it's that we DON'T really ever talk anymore, and calling her and saying "Why wasn't I invited?" could honestly sound really catty. So I didn't call. And, um, well, yeah. I guess if it was a friendship I was horribly worried about maintaining, I would... but I'm not... I know that in a year we'll be off at college and probably never talk again.
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> Ki"that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt"ki

Wolfspirit knows me better than I thought. That is exactly what I would have suggested. It's better to know where you stand and avoid all that wondering. I'm betting it's an oversight. Planning a party sometimes takes a bunch of planning and it's easy to overlook something. Or somebody. (All of this is probably too late. I guess the party is over.)
Howard